Sylwia Presley

With big thanks to Jolinda, for always making me smile and putting it all right:) and  for pointing this out:

That is exactly IT!

Dziekuje!

Some days are cool, and others bring all the hard news and I feel that reality overwhelms me. Recently I have learned stories from people surrounding me, and experienced  few myself that made me doubt the humankind heavily.

I know, it sounds harsh, but I cannot comprehend why to we decide to suffer so much? Why do we give up our own basic human rights (to express ourselves, to decide, to steer our own lives) for the sake of comfortable, still unhappy life? Why do we accept easy root, even though we know very well, it is not the best one? And what makes us change?

I myself had to realize I was heading wrong way for the last 1.5 years  – not consciously,  at least I tried to believe that way the case.  I committed the sin of conformism myself, almost unintentionally. I say unintentionally because I thought I was giving myself a change to live a different (by different I hoped for better) life. However, I denied my own nature! My values and to some extend my own self. It is a very dangerous thing to do…I think my passiveness surrounded me and the moment it turned against me (and the moment someone quoted me as their ‘endless source of energy’;) which I really appreciate) I realized my mistake. I think it was the view of the desert that opened my eyes…again.

I say again, because I always believed in the value of one strong SELF, right? I always worked on the enter to be able to give more, to represent a better person. To give a good example. And to always, but always try harder to achieve my goals.

Today I need to stop and look around. I need to decide about the direction based on who I am, based on my own choice.

I see friends who struggle for the sake of shadows, give up all they do not even have for less. I see people I met randomly trying to brake the vicious circle of conformism, because they ‘feel it’s not OK’. Still, they don’t.

How far do we need to go to make the turn?

Regardless the nationality, location, sex or tradition – we all need to compromise, I agree. But I do not accept any relationship (mine or others) where I see the compromise is made on one side, and with one’s self, not with the other’s.

And nowadays all I see is just subordination, acceptance of other’s conditions (?) and expectations. And whenever money is involved, the shift is rather obvious, sadly. I cannot comprehend people who source their authority in money, age, race, physical strength or sex. The real authority comes from impressing the other with who you are and how well you treat them.

I do not like what I see…

If you care for me, you want what I want and ask the right questions, without assumptions and listen.

If you say you know better what is good for me, your statement is wrong , patronising and unfair.

Simple. It’s not a question of love, hate, common or separate future. It’s a question of respect. So let’s all respect each other, please.